Foarte adevărat este faptul că nu sunt un tată capabil, competent. Este perfect ok să mă simt inadecvat în acest rol incredibil de frumos.
Sunt un păcătos ce creşte o mică păcătoasă. 🙂
Sunt dependent 100% de mila şi îndurarea lui Dumnezeu.
Sunt perfect conştient de slăbiciunile mele şi mă rog să mă port cu milă şi har cu fetița mea. Nu doar acum când slăbiciunile ei sunt adorabile, ci şi peste ani când ele vor fi, poate, deranjante.
“Like everything else God calls people to, God doesn’t call people to be parents because they are able. If you read your Bible carefully, you will understand that God doesn’t call able people to do important things. Abraham wasn’t able. Moses wasn’t able. Gideon wasn’t able. David wasn’t able. The disciples weren’t able, and the story goes on. The reason for this is that there are no able people out there. They just don’t exist. And they surely don’t exist as parents. God did not create human beings to be independently able; he designed us to be dependent. It is not a sign of personal weakness or failure of character to feel unable as a parent. The reason you feel this is because it’s true! None of us has the natural storehouse of wisdom, strength, patience, mercy, and perseverance that every parent needs in order to do his job well. Independent ability, like independent righteousness, is a delusion. So quit beating yourself up because you feel inadequate; you feel that way because it’s true!
But there’s something else to be said here. No child really wants to be parented by parents who think that they’re able. “Able” parents tend to be proud and self-assured parents. Because they are proud of their ability, they act too quickly and with too much self-confidence, and because they do, they lack patience and understanding. “Able” parents tend to assume that their children should be able too, so they tend to fail to be tender when the weaknesses of their children get exposed.”
Paul David Tripp, Parenting
There are many pastors that are showing something in public and a totally different stuff in their private life. Some call this a double life. Spiritual schizophrenia.
I was very surprised, taking a break from my reading of Paul Tripp’s, Dangerous Calling, to see an article on Gospel Coalition by Ronnie Martin, written nearly on the same topic. He is speaking about a fellow pastor that “lost his way”, to use Tripp’s words. He describes the following scenario:
It was nothing “scandalous” at all, really. It was that he lied.
When asked how he was doing, he always replied, “Great!” When asked what he needed prayer for, he always offered some generic request.
He kept things guarded, impersonal, and close to the vest, even when others around him shared the depths of their heart. I don’t think I ever heard him apologize to anyone for anything, ever.
Yet he smiled a lot. He laughed heartily and kept things as “positive” as possible. But I saw how the people closest to him were positively crushed by his lack of vulnerability. I was one of them
The unbelievable aspect in this story is that Ronnie himself soon realized that is very tempted to lie also about his condition. Mentoring a young man, he was challanged to be honest.
I repented to him, praying that God would destroy the pride that kept me from sharing my heart to others. Pride is always the root problem. I wanted people to see me as someone who didn’t need the gospel as bad as I was telling them they needed it.
Praise God that the Holy Spirit faithfully reveals what our hearts conceal. Praise God that those no one hidden in Christ needs to hide anything any longer.
Now, this has a happy ending and it’s quite a gentle story compared with the painful and scary things you’ll find in Tripp’s book. It’s quite an embarrassing, humbling book and you may feel tempted to say that it’s speaking to a small number of ministers, but from his experience(and mine) that’s not true. Continue reading
I watched the last interview with Paul Tripp today. Josh Vincent, pastor of Trinity Bible Church in Phoenix is talking with him about some things written in his latest book Dangerous Calling: Confronting the Unique Challenges of Pastoral Ministry. I have not read the book yet but I hope to get it somehow. For a young minister it’s very encouraging to hear what he says.
I liked the way he explains several aspects about the pastor’s family, the fact that you are God’s spokesman, about getting lost in administrative things, fellowship with other ministers, worship while preparing the message, the humour in preaching. It opened my appetite. I want to get hold of the book now and put some things in order.